Navigating relationships can be quite challenging, and sometimes, individuals find they get along better as friends rather than romantic partners. Whether it’s clashing preferences in TV shows, squabbles over household chores, or disagreements about dining choices, might seem minor initially but can grow into more significant issues over time.
Interestingly, Reddit users share their real-life display of red flags making a good point that these warning signs should not be ignored. Read on to read some unbelievable red flags that are crazy:
1. Superstar Of Social Media
User account U/Cannotakema said: 'Lady stuck around the entire night for the first time and took a picture of my home to post it on social media. She uploaded my bedroom, living room, and master bath on and I was like…what are you doing. She said, 'I want everyone to see your place.'
I told her I did not appreciate her doing so as I didn't like what she had done but she took away from this became obvious pretty soon.
2. Catastrophic Date Plans
Somebody with the username U/adkichar55 mentioned that: 'She was driving and gave me her phone so I could help her navigate for the directions and while I held her phone, she received a message from a dude. I mentioned it to her earlier that her friendship with him made me uncomfortable and she ensured that I had nothing to worry about.
But when I read the text, I teared down and he had asked on text what time to pick her up for their date to which I calmly asked her as to how I should respond.'
3. Living A Fairy Tale Life
Someone on a reddit account with username U/itsathrowawai said: 'My wife and I have been married for two years and together for 15. After some medical testing, we found out that it was near impossible to get pregnant…We thought of adopting when she came home and said she was expecting. After a week, we had an appointment and she had some blood drawn, however the test came back negative…her reaction weirded me out.
She said she was pregnant and that the doctor was wrong. My wife was entirely in denial. She was buying clothes…and is pressuring me to start with the nursery. My neglect made her believe that I want to leave them and I was dooming my wife into a life of a single mom. I love her but I don’t know what to do.'
4. It Takes Two Tango
Somebody with the username U/dudius spoke about: "One day, she was texting someone a lot when she was at my place. She also told me that she made a new friend at a party over the last weekend and it did not look like a friendship and I did not push the conversation. Next day, she said she wanted to break up with me and I was pretty surprised however I did not argue and a week later she wanted to get back with me.
She also messaged me saying she missed me and I told her I would get back with her only if she would confirm my suspicions, honestly. She agreed that his name was Andrew and things did not work out between them. Reading that gave me closure, and I was ready to get my sweet revenge on her. So I texted back, 'I guess we are both liars now' and blocked her phone number."
5. Fearing The Worst
User account U/ThrowRA09060906 said: "My wife worked as a flight attendant and often went on long journeys to other countries. We celebrated our second anniversary last week and she was not going to be home for it, so I decided to give her a surprise card and one of a few gifts. However, I was going to bury it in her luggage suitcase before she was about to leave. That’s when I found them.
There was a newly purchased white lace…pieces that I have never seen before, as well as a pair of heels…That is why now I fear the worst—infidelity. She doesn’t know I saw it because I did not keep the gift and card, but she has been back home since then and gone again. I am going crazy with the thoughts of her with another man, but I don't have concrete proof."
6. No Life Skills For Survival
Somebody with the username U/Belisar002 mentioned that: "This woman used to microwave her travel coffee cup in my microwave and nearly set my kitchen on fire. It was clearly made of non-microwavable plastic and stainless steel. Lightning was forming in that microwave, as was pitch black smoke which began to pour out.
She would also get pissed at me for being upset by that and realized that despite being good-hearted, extremely attractive, she had a survivable IQ and common sense. Her past actions would have contributed to this final judgment but this action and lack of response to it sealed the deal for me."
7. No Etiquettes
Someone on a reddit account with username U/Bobson_Dugb said: "My date was a restaurant manager, took me out to dinner. He was rude to the staff there immediately the entire time.
I had enough of it and got up to leave the table with twenty on it and he said, 'Do you want to see how long it takes me to get this waitress to apologize to us?' The waitress was good—she only forgot one extra water.'
8. The Undisclosed Girlfriend
Somebody with the username U/TorrenceMightingale spoke about: "Once, there was a patient who came to the ER for a UTI. She and her boyfriend had been together for 4 months but she behaved dramatic for having UTI. We also asked her that she had to get tested for having UTI. She insisted we catheter her, which was really unusual…the other nurse and I agreed and we put in a catheter with her lying on the gurney.
9. That is when I heard the nurses'
frightening scream for 'Call L&D! She is crowning!' The girl had no idea she was pregnant. They wheeled her off to a postpartum recovery room, and her boyfriend was just kind of left standing there, dumbstruck.
We have been dating for the past months and I had no idea she was pregnant and she also never mentioned it at all.'
10. Moment Of Truth
User account U/esyougeeayeare said: 'My ex was a part of the accident and had his back broken. I took care of all the paperwork and insurance claims while he was a bit out of it.
I needed some information from his phone and found out he was talking to another girl when I was away for a week. He faked the confusion but the reality hit when I walked out of that door.'
11. Nothing Went Exactly As Planned
Somebody with the username U/anythingrandom5 mentioned that: "My wife shared with me that a dude from her work was stalking her and I told him that I knew what he was doing and he needed to be away from her or else... The crazy idea is—he had no idea my wife had accused him of stalking her. He assumed I was talking about the affair they were having.
He got freaked out and went back home to his wife and confessed about it. My wife was just taking my help to get rid of him. After he confessed to his wife, she called me in tears and asked how I knew about the situation. It was a confusing conversation until I realized the truth of the situation."
12. Top Secret Accounts
Someone on a reddit account with username U/Traditional-Resist45 said: "To set the scene, I had been with my wife for 10 years and we have two boys (who are 6 and 10). My wife is a stay at home mom, while I work full time. We are doing financially okay and there aren't any problems with putting food on the table and paying bills, but we are not going on an overseas holiday every year.
Last night, I was looking at our joint bank account on the internet and I noticed an unexpected transfer (about $100, which wasn't much). I thought this was odd and looked through the transaction history and saw that there are quite a few transfers to this account-there does not appear to be a pattern to the frequency or amount.
When I confronted my wife about it she admitted that she had a separate account and denied showing me the account on the internet because I wanted to see how much was in it and what purchases she had made. I went to bed without talking to her again. I went through her wallet and found her bank card. On the way home from the gym I went to an ATM and checked the balance…there was only a few hundred dollars in the account.
She also did not make any unreasonable or unexplained expensive purchases-no new jewelry or expensive clothes. What I could not understand was why she would deny showing me her internet banking details.
I felt like she was trying to hide something but I can not work out what it could possibly be?"
13. Daddy Issues Baggage
Somebody with the username U/PlayfulPickle4501 spoke about: "My father who is a 42 year old male had 4 children and has a son from a previous marriage who is 7. My father got married to my step mom who is a 26 year old female and they had two kids, a girl who is 4 years old and a boy who turned 1 recently.
I took a small break between school and I had taken up my first job as a dental assistant. My father and step mom were going through issues from child care and asked me if I could watch my siblings…I love my siblings. My father on the other hand, is a narcissist and not respectful towards me or any woman.
When he asked me to watch them, I asked him if he was going to pay me for these services. He was so mad when I said that he hung up the phone. My father then sent me a long message in quotes 'If you are going to be that conceited about money then stay home. Don't worry, I would not ask you for your help in the future when it comes to your siblings. We spoiled you and now we see what that created, someone who is conceited and spoiled, only caring about themselves and money and nothing else…'
Keeping in mind I did not ask for much. I paid my own rent, did my own schooling, and paid for all my needs. I also asked him to pay me to babysit because it was a big time commitment for me when this was supposed to be my break from work/school.
I felt it was not my responsibility to watch his children because I did not choose to have them. I have not talked to my dad in over 3 months because of this argument."
14. Being Under One’s Thumb
User account U/anorangehorse said: "My friend, Aaron and his girl friend Mary had been together since 7 years and I could call them exceptionally co-dependent. Neither of them had any friends apart from each other. In fact, she did not let him do a lot of things and that is the reason why they are still together is that Aaron is completely worn out, and to him she can do no wrong.
Now, the problem here is: Few weeks back, I spent some time with a friend of Mary’s, Alison. Alison told me about a party they went to where Mary got drunk too much and slept with her ex.
Aaron has no idea about these hook-ups and it would destroy him, their relationship and their friendship.
However, I think in the long term he will be unhappy with a marriage where she is so controlling."
15. My Dear Diary
Somebody with the username U/PurgatoryMountain mentioned that: "Once I dated this girl for a year and it was pretty serious. One night, I went to her house and went for a shower and when I was playing with her iPad I found a book under her bed. On opening the book, I saw beautiful sketches and I guess it was her diary.
In it, she wrote about how she had been cheating on me with multiple men. Later, I called her friends who I was close with and asked to explain…My girlfriend got out of the shower and asked why I left. I told her I read her diary and that it was done between us.
Later on, my ex and 3 of her friends made a pact. They were all in on it together…They would rent hotel rooms together, cover for each other, and make detailed notes so no one found out."
16. Well, That's Ain’t Me
Someone on a reddit account with username U/DJdisonanca99 said: "I was new into a relationship and everything was going good. She had invited me to meet her friends and I spoke with everyone.
One of the dudes and I got along really well and at some point I introduced myself as so-and-so’s boyfriend. He excitedly said: 'Oh, you must be Jake!' For the record, my name is Anthony."
17. Caught Red-handed
Somebody with the username U/hoocares spoke about: "My boyfriend let me use his iPad to watch a movie on Netflix and had is messenger linked with his tab and his phone. I could see the messages pop up while I was watching without him realizing that I could see it too.
I witnessed it in real-time when he texted his best friends' wife to agree to sleep with him over the coming holiday weekend; with the promise that he would get rid of me for that weekend so they could get physically intimate in our bed."
18. A Very Bad Smell
The story of this narrator goes as follows: "My girlfriend pushed us to shower together one last time and when we went inside, she forgot to bring in the towels and went to bring them. While waiting for her, something odd in the tub got my attention and then the lights went off, and a terrible stench came into the room, and the darkness got me. I woke up in the hospital stinking and on asking the doctor, he cryptically replied, ''You still don't get it' to which I said, 'What do you mean doctor?' She then asked me, 'You know skunks are supposed to be indoors, right?'
That question caught me by surprise because it turns out that my girlfriend put a skunk in the shower as a joke. She also fooled me into the shower and switched the light off before I got sprayed by the skunk. The stench was so bad that I fainted and ended up in the emergency room."
19. The Weekend Trip
Another user narrated their part of the story, where: "My boyfriend surprised me with a weekend getaway at a luxurious hotel and after we checked-in, she gave us a weird look. The conversation went like:
Receptionist: 'Sir, I am sorry, but there seems to be a problem with your reservation.'
Boyfriend: 'What? But I made the reservations weeks ago!'
Receptionist: 'Well, someone named 'Jessica' canceled it just a few hours ago.'
Boyfriend: 'Jessica? I don't know anyone who is Jessica.'
Me: 'Jessica as in your boss Jessica. How could you? I always knew you were working extra hours at work, but I thought you were working extra hours to save up to buy me a ring.'
His strange behavior made sense and I finally had the guts to end the relationship once and for all. I also made sure he booked me a room at the hotel, just for myself.'
20. Self-Dignity Harmed
Someone on a reddit account with username U/THROWRAsjaja2828 said: "I have been with my boyfriend for the past two years, and I thought he was attracted to ALL OF ME. But that changed since last night because he got his friends over and I am cool with them but we aren't so close so usually when they come to play video comes, I head upstairs.
Although, I shut the door but I stood there to hear and I knew listening is wrong but I heard them say my name! The friend said that I have a big butt and nice cans but I am a 'butterface' without makeup and I heard my boyfriend laugh and replied with 'Her body is perfect' which was even worse to know that he did not defend the looks and is attracted to my body and not my face."
21. Keep An Eye Open
User account U/GAU8 said: "I went over to my partner's place and had an argument so I slept on the floor primarily. When I woke up, I went to the bathroom to text my friend to pick me up and she was already asleep. However, I received a text from her asking, 'Where are you?' I froze and opened the door and she was right outside the door waiting for me in the night darkness.
She did not say anything and just stared at me until I walked by. I went back to the part where I slept and got under my blanket, pretending to sleep until she did. After half an hour, I peeked out to see from under the covers and…she was standing tall above me in total darkness with her eyes open wide, the entire time."
22. Unsettling Confession
Somebody with the username U/throwramerr mentioned that: "Me and my boyfriend decided to go for an 8 hour drive to our home state and live there for a few months. Just before leaving, we had a huge fight…cut to our drive, and not long enough after hitting the road…I passed out. I don't remember falling asleep and woke up once for sometime, drank some Gatorade that he gave me, and then I fell asleep again.
I felt weird because I was not tired at all…yesterday…he made a disturbing confession. He made an inconsiderate comment that he wished he could d--- me more when I 'act out'…I ask him what he’s talking about. He proceeds to tell me he put Benadryl in my drink.
That is the reason why I slept the entire time so he doesn't have to deal with me. I am still trying to come out of the conversation and feel absolutely knocked down."
23. During The Time of Trouble
Someone on a reddit account with username U/QRT_W said: "My best friend let it slip in a Facebook message accidently because I already knew and was relieved as I had doubts but no proof. When I was confronted by my wife, she said the guy aggressively took her advantage. I did not buy that false statement and she finally confessed.
But here's the thing, despite everything we were together for the next 7 years. Even though we tried to make it work, our relationship never improved. It was in a turmoil as she is a raging narcissist who cannot handle making mistakes.
Fortunately I finally parted ways with her in March 2017 and within 2 months she hooked up with someone else and raised their kids with two new adopted dogs to replace the ones we had together."
24. Complete Poles Apart
Somebody with the username U/Tousca spoke about: "We had been together from around 6-8 months—and had been living together for at least 2 months when I decided to make tuna salad. I got back with two bowls, half I made it the way he liked it and the other half, the way I liked it.
He got crazy about 2 different versions of it and said, 'If we can’t agree on how to eat tuna, how will this ever work?!' To which I said we do not have to agree the way we want and be happy about it. He strongly disagreed.
I then thought about his controlling behavior and his inability to compromise. We did not break up that day but the relationship definitely broke. The cheating did not help either."
25. Story Point 24!
User account U/ElToberino said: "When I was in Denver for a month for work, we had planned a date night when I got home but suddenly I received her call when she was crying that night when I was on the way back. The entire conversation made me disappointed too. She confessed on the call that she had been with someone else.
That someone turns out to be her ex-husband and that is not it—I got lucky, because a few months later, she called with positive STD results, which I avoided too."
26. A Transformed Man
Somebody with the username U/ThrowRA_healthful mentioned that: "When I got married to my husband, I was aware that he was a lazy video game nerd, overweight and I loved him that way for his warm heart and his kind personality. Two years back, one day he went on a camping tour along with his friend and when he got home, it seemed like something had lit a fire under his butt.
Since then he never played video games and took up running, reading books even though I never saw him do that before apart from school. He also turned vegetarian even though he had been a meat and potatoes dude.
I can hardly recognize him although we still have a good marriage and I still love him. He has always motivated me to do better in the last two years, but I cannot help but miss my husband. I know people do change but all that is left of him is his warm heart."
27. An Unusual Date
Someone on a reddit account with username U/wsawyer12 said: "When I was on a date with a girl in college…we both enjoyed going to watch concerts for smaller emo-type bands. Once, I took her with me to Dallas along with my sister—who happened to be dating the lead singer of one of the bands at the show—and some other friends too. Once the show was over we were all hanging out with many band members in the cellar-like bar area.
We all laughed and had a good time when my girl said, 'This seems like a really good place to screech' and one of the dudes from the band was confused and said, 'Screech?' and then my girl friend immediately let out his screech that had everyone in the venue turn around to see…I knew the exact moment that I was done with a relationship…we got back to town, I told her, 'Well, it's been fun but his relationship is not going to work for me.'"
28. End Of The Game
Somebody with the username U/Cupcake_Octopus spoke about: "During my high school days, I dated a guy who I thought was awesome because he was one of the first guys that I dated that didn’t dump me after a week. After almost 3 months of dating, I went over to his house to spend time with him and —it took a while to convince my mom to let me—and we were playing Super Smash Brothers.
I told him I was decent at the game since I grew up with two older brothers and I played with them all the time. I once beat this dude and I swear I never saw this dude act like a toddler. He went on to scream, threw his controller at the ground, and started cussing at me and the game. Later, I grabbed my things and got out of there and never looked back."
29. For The Record
User account U/SnooLentils314 said: "We had been married for years and it was going great but after we had a baby, he panicked and later asked me for space. 10 months later, I added a new Amazon Echo on our family account and went through the voice requests to play them back.
One of the recordings brought chills up my spine when it was my husband saying, 'Alexa, play beautiful love songs' where in the background I could hear intimate noises. It turned out that he was having an affair with a colleague.
I shared this originally on social media and a tabloid newspaper picked up the story headlining it as, 'Amazon Slimeball' which is what saved my contact forever."
30. In Negation
Somebody with the username U/notthedad19 mentioned that: "I have been with my wife since we were in high school and have been married for the past 10 years. Her best friend, Megan and I have been co-workers for the same company but in different departments. Yesterday she asked me to meet her after work and told me she had something to share. When I met her she immediately started crying and I tried to console her to ask if something was wrong.
That is when she shared that her husband and my wife were having an affair and also said that her husband was my three-year-old daughter's biological father.
After I confronted my wife regarding this, she denied everything and when I told her Megan told me about it, she broke down and started crying, too. I really don’t know what to do. I mean, everything was a lie, right?"
31. Three Special Words
Someone on a reddit account with username U/321zzz said: "I work as an anesthesiologist so, C-sections are usually under spinal anesthesia and I had seen that more than once. But one particular time when parents were Caucasian, and the baby wasn't. The biological father had to be very dark-skinned. During the delivery when the not-father saw the baby, he just looked down at his wife, who was starting to cry, and he spoke the three words everyone was thinking: "You are a cheater" and walked off.
She screamed his name to come back but there was not much she could do because she was still being operated on. She lost her control to an extent that I had to sedate her as she was in danger of injuring herself."